This week I am shifting gears a bit. For the past few weeks we have been focused inward, looking at intention in the areas of self-care and personal growth. For the remainder of this series, we will be focused outward as we talk about being more intentional in our roles and in our relationships and how we can show ourselves grace in these areas rather that bear the heavy burden of perfection. So I would like to begin with talking about cultivating a life of intention and grace as it relates to our role as a homemaker.
Whether you stay-at-home or work a full-time job, whether you embrace the title homemaker or the very word makes you cringe and roll your eyes, whether you happily carry the full load of the household or equally share the duties with your spouse, you are a homemaker.
Many people equate the word homemaker to the word housekeeper, thinking that homemaking is not much more than cooking and cleaning and doing laundry. While those duties do make up a large part of homemaking, they are just part of the picture.
To me, homemaking is simply what the word states…it is making a home. And while cooking and cleaning and doing laundry are all aspects of keeping a house, they do not make a home.
I like to think of my job as homemaker as being similar to my former job of event planner. As an event planner, your primary goal is to create an unforgettable experience. From the moment the guests arrive until the time they walk out the door, a good event planner has thought through each and every detail with a theme or goal in mind.
As a homemaker, life is the event, our husbands and our children, our family and our friends are the guests, and it is up to us to create an unforgettable experience.
So what is the experience that you wish to create in your home?
For my home, I find inspiration in the very words of Jesus when He said,
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
I long for my home to be a place of rest. A place of peace. A place where my husband and my children, my family and my friends will feel nurtured and cared for.
So how do I seek to create a nurturing home?
It’s all in the little things.
Soft blankets and quilts tucked throughout the house for warm snuggles.
A well-stocked medicine cabinet to properly nurse bumps and bruises, aches and pains.
Tea and coffee in the pantry to offer a cup to the unexpected guest who could use a comforting beverage and a listening ear.
Little Golden Books stashed throughout the house for spontaneous story time.
Colorful scribble art displayed throughout the house to show appreciation and admiration to unsteady little hands.
Clothes cleaned and placed in drawers so that favorite pajamas and shirts are ready to be worn.
Meals planned and groceries purchased so that hungry tummies can be satisified.
You might be thinking that these things are common and aren’t really that spectacular and why in the world would I be writing about such ordinary things. It’s because as ordinary as they may seem, it is the accumulation of all of these little ordinary things that will set the tone and the atmosphere for my home and the experience and memories that I am creating for my loved ones.
- If you were have to choose a word or a theme for the type of home experience you wish to create for your loved ones, what would it be?
- Maybe you are a person who finds inspiration in quotes and in pictures. If so, perhaps start a folder or an inspiration board to collect words and pictures that capture the essence of the kind of home experience you want to create.
- What are 5 practical ways that you can be intentional about bringing this home experience to life?
Remember, it is not entirely in your capacity to create the perfect home experience for everyone. People bring along their own attitudes and you have no control over that. Your efforts may often go unnoticed and unappreciated. If you get discouraged, don’t give up. As wives and as mothers, we do what we do out of love for our families and not for accolades and applause. And remember, there is one who will always notice your efforts and knows your heart, and that is your heavenly Father.
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” Colossians 3:23-24
This post is Day 14 of the 31 day series I am writing on cultivating a life of intention and grace. For a complete index of posts in this series, click here. To read more 31 Days series, please visit The Nester.
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