I have moved 26 times. I am 31 years old. You do the math.
We were not a military family, but we were a ministry family, and when it comes to moving, those can often look the same. Then I married a minister, and the rest is history. I’m not bitter, and I don’t have any deep resentments or issues about it. In fact, I have been a part of the decision making on all of my moves as a married woman, so I do understand the thought process behind a decision to move.
But as I get older, I am recognizing the effects that my many moves have had on my ability and desire to invest in friendships. I tend to hold back because it almost feels like a waste of time. Because I know that in a short while, we will probably move away and that person will no longer be in my life. I am thankful for Facebook, and for being able to keep up with old friends, but it is hard to maintain a deep level of friendship when your paths do not cross in everyday life.
Don’t get me wrong, I have friends. In fact, right now God has blessed me with some of the best friendships I have ever had. I think that is why this is so pressing on my heart. I am ready to be a better friend to these people, even if I do not have the assurance that they will always be in my life.
“The only way to have a friend is to be one.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
So in 2012, I am going to be more intentional in my friendships. I am going to pick up the phone more often, open my home, my kitchen table, and my heart.
Something I plan to start this month, is a weekly playgroup at my house for moms of little ones. I think it will be a great way to connect with other moms and provide a place for us to regularly encourage and pray for each other.
So if you are one of my friends, watch out! I might be ringing your phone off the hook. Just kidding! No seriously.
So that is my One Word for 2012….be.